Auntie B
We all have our “favorites” in our family. I had a couple, one of them was my “Auntie B”. She’s my grandfather’s sister. I practically grew up around her, She was my favorite because every time I seen her she made me feel special…she said my name in an animated way with her smile..I loved her so much. If you wanted to know the truth about something, just ask Auntie B! Growing up I loved staying the weekends over her house. When she moved to the south it took about 8 years before I seen her again. I made plans to stay with her as if i was going to see one of my peers. It seem like no matter how old I was, I was always able to hold a conversation with her. I was told growing up that I was mature for my age so I guess that played a big factor in it too. I remember about 3 1/2 years ago my mom, sister and I made a trip to go to see her, now my mom never been to her house in the south and my Auntie B was so shocked, it seemed forever as they hugged and cried in the middle of my Auntie’s B front lawn. I remember the same night we got there my sister and I went out and my Auntie B was up waiting on us. Auntie B was always giving up her bed for family and Auntie B and I took the 2 couches in the living room. We talked for what it seems like hours! I actually fell asleep on her. Oh the next morning she joked about it!
Throughout the years Auntie B will have different sickness and for awhile I was in denial, I think a couple of my family members were too. Auntie B was a strong, tall woman that didn’t take no mess. So imagining her sick, I couldn’t do. It was times I spoke to her over the phone and every time, don’t matter what the conversation was about she always asked me when i was going to get married and have some kids. It was even to the point at one time I tried my best not to let the conversation lead to marriage and kids. However, this one particular conversation stuck in my head to this day. This was about 4 years ago, I don’t think I called her because I just finished smoking and was coming down off my high and usually I don’t like conversating with anyone but when it was Auntie B I perked up and tried to be attentive as I could be but I failed because she asked me if I was drunk, lol. She talked about her sickness because at this time she was in and out of hospitals having different surgeries. Then as usual the conversation focused on me. Also, some of my family members became acquainted with my life style. I brought my ex-girlfriend to a funeral one time, one of the worst things I ever did! Since she couldn’t get the attention from me she showed off like a 2-year old. My Auntie B seen her but since that day no one confirmed anything with me. But I knew they was talking. So as the conversation continued Auntie B only mentioned about me having kids. I guess at that time she was going through something with her grown kids, I heard the emotions in her voice. She said, “now you know you getting older, so it don’t matter how you do it, just have some kids so you’ll have someone to look out after you”. This startled me for a few reasons.
For one, it was only a couple times i seen or heard Auntie B show emotion. Second, me having kids really meant something to her and knew how it would benefit me and last she didn’t mentioned me meeting and marrying a man! I took this as she accepted my life style and that meant alot to me because “coming out” I really had a hard time to the point I got on Zoloft. So the fact that Auntie B said this meant the world to me! After the conversation i made a vow to myself that I will have a kid. For years I was back and forth with wanting to have kids to the point I feel that I’m too ‘old’ now. A couple of years ago I had went to visit Auntie B in the hospital. About a week prior she had called my mom and asked to see us because she felt like she didn’t have long before she was to be called home. I didnt know what to expect once we got to the hospital but when we got there the room was filled with family and she was smiling, joking and talking mess. My mom and I arrived right before noon and stayed to about 9pm that night. We had a good time in the hospital, I was starting to believe she would be coming home soon although she was in the hospital for about a month. Reality kicked in when i seen her get real quiet after taking her medication and as the medicine took effect Auntie B appeared exhausted from the joking and laughter.
Less than a month after our visit Auntie B passed on, it was December 17, 2009. I was so shocked, hurt, sad and all the other emotions I can’t describe at that time. I reflected on my last visit to her and realized how strong she was to hide the pain that she was going through from her loved ones, man my Auntie B was Strong!! Auntie B knew she didn’t have much time and called for my mom and me, wow I felt loved, special..She has numerous nieces and nephews, but she called on us. Auntie B’s message about me having kids..I got it and understand. When I think of Auntie B I think of the good times we had and the person she was. RIP Auntie B! Love you soooooo much!!